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How do we respect other people's boundaries? We'r

How do we respect other people's boundaries?

We're all kind, empathetic people here. We want to do right by people, we don't want to be stressing them out.

So, is it on us or them to protect other people's boundaries?

Here are my tips if you're worried about this stuff:
1. Look for info about their boundaries
Check their Instagram highlights, their email footer, their website.

2. If you're not sure, ask
Drop them a DM asking if they take orders on Instagram; ask if they're happy to talk about a particular topic; ask what's the best way to book a call with them.

3. Give positive feedback
Make it clear that you're happy to stick to these boundaries - even tell them if they've inspired you to revisit yours!

4. Apologise if you get it wrong
Enforcing boundaries is even harder than setting them. Asking someone to email you, rather than DM; pointing someone to your FAQs; pushing back on a call time - these are all scary things.

So if someone says this to you, apologise kindly with minimal fuss and make it clear that you'll stick to that in future.

Does this sound good to you? Or scary??

Why do we find it so hard to ask for what we need

Why do we find it so hard to ask for what we need and soften ourselves when we do?

We were talking in today's boundaries workshop about the words we use to set and remind people of our boundaries.

Some people (like @vixmeldrew and Medina @grillodesigns ) are GREAT at saying what they need online, in their own words, confidently and clearly.

But some of us really struggle. We talked about words and phrases we could use and we all realised that we soften ourselves, soften our needs with 'hedging phrases' like 'could you,' 'would you mind if.'

Do you notice this in yourself? What phrases do you find help when you need to reinforce them there boundaries?

Your boundaries aren’t gonna be liked by everyon

Your boundaries aren’t gonna be liked by everyone. And y’know what pal, that’s ok!

If someone feels like your boundaries don’t sit right with them, then you’re not gonna be a good fit for each other.

In fact, you’re probably gonna be a damaging fit for each other.

It’s ok if your boundaries make some people uncomfortable or unhappy.

They is not your people.

On Tuesday we’re gonna talk about how we can embody this and I’ll be showing you practically how to set your boundaries online, with loads of tips and support.

I’d love to see you there if you feel like you could do with some help with this stuff 🧡

#worklesslivemore #9tothrive #boundariesonline #banishburnout #anxietysupport #depressionsupport

I chatted with the dreamboat @vixmeldrew today abo

I chatted with the dreamboat @vixmeldrew today about boundaries being there to protect your basic needs, so if you don't have boundaries, you'll struggle to give yourself your basic needs.

We all know (right?!) that my core belief about myself is that I'm a failure.

So my basic needs for my mental health are to help me manage that compulsive thought.

I need to take breaks.
I need to not be stuck to a rigid schedule.
I need to minimise my exposure to the things that make me feel like a failure (emails!)

Soooooo my boundaries help me give myself these things.

I don't have a rigid posting schedule online; I don't have any worky apps on my phone; I keep up with my clients on a separate app that I can compartmentalise; I don't respond to DMs when I'm feeling overwhelmed (you can find the full list in my boundaries highlight!).

So pals, to give yourself the basic things you need to manage your mind, you gots to have boundaries in place to protect them.

The boundaries are the white picket fencing around your lovely garden of flowers and bees and lovely classical music and a lovely garden chair....ok just me??

Y'know the drill - if boundaries is a thing that feels scary for you, please do check out my Boundaries in Business workshop next Tuesday - link is in the bio as ever.

#worklesslivemore #9tothrive #banishburnout #smallbusinessbigheart #reclaimthehappy #itsoktobehappywithacalmlife #livingwithanxiety #anxietysupport #selfhealers

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